How This Anxious Introvert Handles Large Events

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这世界上有两种人,内向的人和外向的人。外向的人通过和别人打交道,参加社交活动来给自己充电,而内向的人则必须在社交活动之后找方法给自己充电,让自己回蓝。如果你和本文作者一样是个内向的人,那这篇文章就是你的福音啦。内向者参加社交活动指南:
第一招
重视社交深度,不要只是关注社交广度。打开你的微信,看看你有多少微信好友?这些好友中又有多少真的是你的朋友?同样,每年10月到第二年春节前,简直是社交活动高峰期,各种年会,各种行业会议,各种庆祝活动,内向的人应该怎样在这些可怕的活动中幸存呢?首先就是不要以这次会议我一定要认识100个人为目标,科学证明,我们把社交圈子维持在150人才是高效的。所以,不如一次只认识5个关键人物吧。
第二招
每当你想从会场逃跑的时候,告诉自己,再待30分钟就撤。30分钟之后,如果你仍然想离开,那么就真的离开;但是,往往你会发现,真的过了30分钟,你已经不想走了。说不定这次社交中就会有很多机会,不要错过哦。
第三招
让自己休息一下。很多会议上的某些日程如同鸡肋,这时候你就可以开个小差,出去散个步,甚至跑个步,买杯咖啡,把自己从会议的氛围中拔出来。不要小看这种小憩,它能让你迅速回蓝,重新精力充沛地投入会议。
第四招
在大会中进行一对一交流很重要。虽然说是people mountain people sea的社交场合,但是真正有用的人可能就那么几个。不如抓着自己心仪(哦,是事业上心仪)的对象好好地来一个一对一交流,保证你收获更多。
总之呢,内向的人既然知道自己也需要社交,那么就要做更多准备。
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第一步:解决高频单词

sample ['sæmpl]

vt. 取样;抽样检查;尝试 / n. 样品;样本;例子 / adj. 作为例子的;试样的,样品的

introvert ['ɪntrəvɜːt]

n.内向者;内向的人

introversion [,ɪntrəʊ'vɜːʃən]

n.内向

anxious ['æŋ(k)ʃəs]

焦虑的;担忧的

recharge [riː'tʃɑːdʒ]

vt.充电;恢复精力

retreat [rɪ'triːt]

vi.离开;撤退

ghost [gəʊst]

vi.溜走

bounce [baʊns]

vi.反弹;恢复

hang out 

闲逛;消磨时光

release [rɪ'liːs]

vt.释放;放出

catch up 

赶着做;补做

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第四段:
A. Depth Not Breadth When Meeting New People at Conferences: The routine went like this — end up at a conference with 100+ amazing people. Assume that “doing a good job” meant meeting and impressing all of them. Then beat myself up when I retreated from this goal after shaking a bunch of hands and finding myself unfulfilled, exhausted. So I changed my definition of success. It’s fine if I end up seeing a bunch of people but, really, if I can have meaningful conversations with just five, 10, 15 people over the course of a day, that’s a win.

  • depth n.深度
  • breath n. 广度
  • retreat vi.离开;撤退
  • unfulfilled adj.不满足的;没有成就感的

第五段:
B. When I Feel Ready to Ghost, Stay 30m Longer: Before I’d quietly slip away whenever I felt the first tingles of “uh I don’t want to be here anymore.” Now I recognize that impulse, honor it, exhale and see if I’m cool staying another 30 minutes. Once I do this check-in I’m totally ok bouncing after 30 if that’s still the way I’m feeling, but often I’ll end up hanging out much longer without even knowing it.

  • ghost vi 溜走
  • slip away 溜走
  • tingle n.刺痛感
  • impulse n.冲动
  • honor vt. 尊敬;尊重
  • exhale vi.呼气
  • bounce vi.反弹;恢复
  • hang out  闲逛;消磨时光

第六段:
C. Take 30–60 Minute Recharges: Look for points in the schedule where it’s ok for me to go take a walk, grab a coffee, take a shower or exercise. Things that put me in another headspace and recharge me. Yeah so it’s not that I wasn’t interested in your panel topic, it’s that I needed some Hunter time.

  • grab a coffee 买杯咖啡
  • headspace n. 心境
  • hunter time 在这里是指自己独处的时光

第七段:
D. Pull People Aside for 1:1s: As my friend knows from an annual conference we both attend, I’m a big fan of catching up over a 1:1 walk, even offsite from the event. I find this technique especially good at evening events where instead of a loud noisy drinking circle, I’ll find someone I wanted to spend time with and we’ll find a location to just sit and chat for 20–30 minutes before releasing back into the frenzy.

  • catch up 赶着做;补做
  • release vt.释放;放出
  • frenzy n.狂乱(这里指闹哄哄的地方)
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第三步:攻克必学语法

Before I’d quietly slip away whenever I felt the first tingles of “uh I don’t want to be here anymore.” Now I recognize that impulse, honor it, exhale and see if I’m cool staying another 30 minutes. Once I do this check-in I’m totally ok bouncing after 30 if that’s still the way I’m feeling, but often I’ll end up hanging out much longer without even knowing it.

猜猜上面这段话里有多少个从句?
提示:
Before
whenever
if
once
after
if

答案:
Before 引导时间状语从句
whenever 条件状语从句
if 引导宾语从句
once 引导条件状语从句
if 引导条件状语从句
那么我们就发现了if的两种不同用法:
第一:
if 引导宾语从句,当作 是否 讲
Now I recognize that impulse, honor it, exhale and see if I’m cool staying another 30 minutes.
现在我搞清楚了这种想要离开的冲动,承认它,然后看看我是否能再待30分钟。
see if I ‘m cool staying another 30 minutes 就是典型的if引导宾语从句
I don't know if the figures are accurate. 我不知道这些数据是否精确。

第二:
if 引导条件状语从句
Once I do this check-in I’m totally ok bouncing after 30 if that’s still the way I’m feeling, but often I’ll end up hanging out much longer without even knowing it.
三十分钟之后,如果我仍然觉得想离开,那么我就离开,但是通常情况是,不知不觉中,我又多待了很长一段时间。

I shall not go out if you come tomorrow.
如果你明天来,我就不出去啦。

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How This Anxious Introvert Handles Large Events

第一段:
If you only kinda know me you might think I’m a confident extrovert, but if you really really know me, it’s more clear: I’m an introvert, and one who gets slightly anxious during prolonged exposure to large groups. Introversion isn’t shyness and it’s not a like or dislike of people generally. For example, I really enjoy public speaking. Introversion is quintessentially “does being around other people give you energy or take energy away?” Introverts can be proverbial life of the party but then need time alone to recharge.

  • extrovert  n. 外向者
  • introvert n. 内向者
  • anxious adj.焦虑的
  • prolonged adj.持续很久的
  • exposure n.暴露
  • introversion n.内向
  • quintessentially adv.典型地;标准地
  • proverbial adj.众所周知的
  • recharge vt.充电;恢复精力

第二段:
My own introversion is compounded by low level anxiety in large group settings, especially when the social dynamics start to approximate high school — you know, groups of people, some of whom know each other and others who don’t. A bit of hierarchy and peacocking starting to play out, alcohol flowing.

  • be compounded by  由于…而恶化
  • dynamic n.动态;动力
  • approximate vt.接近于;近似于
  • hierarchy n.等级制度
  • peacock vi.炫耀

第三段:
Over time, and in the interest of self-care, here’s how I’ve approached my own expectations and behaviors at events, especially day-long or multi-day conferences:

  • over time 过一段时间
  • conference n.会议

第四段:
A. Depth Not Breadth When Meeting New People at Conferences: The routine went like this — end up at a conference with 100+ amazing people. Assume that “doing a good job” meant meeting and impressing all of them. Then beat myself up when I retreated from this goal after shaking a bunch of hands and finding myself unfulfilled, exhausted. So I changed my definition of success. It’s fine if I end up seeing a bunch of people but, really, if I can have meaningful conversations with just five, 10, 15 people over the course of a day, that’s a win.

  • depth n.深度
  • breath n. 广度
  • retreat vi.离开;撤退
  • unfulfilled adj.不满足的;没有成就感的

第五段:
B. When I Feel Ready to Ghost, Stay 30m Longer: Before I’d quietly slip away whenever I felt the first tingles of “uh I don’t want to be here anymore.” Now I recognize that impulse, honor it, exhale and see if I’m cool staying another 30 minutes. Once I do this check-in I’m totally ok bouncing after 30 if that’s still the way I’m feeling, but often I’ll end up hanging out much longer without even knowing it.

  • ghost vi 溜走
  • slip away 溜走
  • tingle n.刺痛感
  • impulse n.冲动
  • honor vt.尊敬
  • exhale vi.呼气
  • bounce vi.反弹;恢复
  • hang out  闲逛;消磨时光

第六段:
C. Take 30–60 Minute Recharges: Look for points in the schedule where it’s ok for me to go take a walk, grab a coffee, take a shower or exercise. Things that put me in another headspace and recharge me. Yeah so it’s not that I wasn’t interested in your panel topic, it’s that I needed some Hunter time.

  • grab a coffee 买杯咖啡
  • headspace n. 心境
  • Hunter time

第七段:
D. Pull People Aside for 1:1s: As my friend knows from an annual conference we both attend, I’m a big fan of catching up over a 1:1 walk, even offsite from the event. I find this technique especially good at evening events where instead of a loud noisy drinking circle, I’ll find someone I wanted to spend time with and we’ll find a location to just sit and chat for 20–30 minutes before releasing back into the frenzy.

  • catch up 赶着做;补做
  • release vt.释放;放出
  • frenzy n.狂乱(这里指闹哄哄的地方)

第八段:
Suggestions from the Crowd:
• Get attendee lists in advance to identify folks you know who are attending or people with whom you have mutual friends/interests
• Asking people I know at the event to introduce me to people I don’t. Even if I only know one person at first, this lets me have many convos…
• Also use a buddy system — Bringing a guest puts me at ease and makes it easier to meet new people

  • attendee n.与会者
  • mutual adj.共同的;相互的
  • convo n.谈话
  • buddy system 朋友圈
  • put sb at ease 让某人放松
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sample ['sæmpl]

vt. 取样;抽样检查;尝试 / n. 样品;样本;例子 / adj. 作为例子的;试样的,样品的

introvert ['ɪntrəvɜːt]

n.内向者;内向的人

introversion [,ɪntrəʊ'vɜːʃən]

n.内向

anxious ['æŋ(k)ʃəs]

焦虑的;担忧的

recharge [riː'tʃɑːdʒ]

vt.充电;恢复精力

retreat [rɪ'triːt]

vi.离开;撤退

ghost [gəʊst]

vi.溜走

bounce [baʊns]

vi.反弹;恢复

hang out 

闲逛;消磨时光

release [rɪ'liːs]

vt.释放;放出

catch up 

赶着做;补做

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How This Anxious Introvert Handles Large Events

第一段:
If you only kinda know me you might think I’m a confident extrovert, but if you really really know me, it’s more clear: I’m an introvert, and one who gets slightly anxious during prolonged exposure to large groups. Introversion isn’t shyness and it’s not a like or dislike of people generally. For example, I really enjoy public speaking. Introversion is quintessentially “does being around other people give you energy or take energy away?” Introverts can be proverbial life of the party but then need time alone to recharge.

第二段:
My own introversion is compounded by low level anxiety in large group settings, especially when the social dynamics start to approximate high school — you know, groups of people, some of whom know each other and others who don’t. A bit of hierarchy and peacocking starting to play out, alcohol flowing.

第三段:
Over time, and in the interest of self-care, here’s how I’ve approached my own expectations and behaviors at events, especially day-long or multi-day conferences:

第四段:
A. Depth Not Breadth When Meeting New People at Conferences: The routine went like this — end up at a conference with 100+ amazing people. Assume that “doing a good job” meant meeting and impressing all of them. Then beat myself up when I retreated from this goal after shaking a bunch of hands and finding myself unfulfilled, exhausted. So I changed my definition of success. It’s fine if I end up seeing a bunch of people but, really, if I can have meaningful conversations with just five, 10, 15 people over the course of a day, that’s a win.

第五段:
B. When I Feel Ready to Ghost, Stay 30m Longer: Before I’d quietly slip away whenever I felt the first tingles of “uh I don’t want to be here anymore.” Now I recognize that impulse, honor it, exhale and see if I’m cool staying another 30 minutes. Once I do this check-in I’m totally ok bouncing after 30 if that’s still the way I’m feeling, but often I’ll end up hanging out much longer without even knowing it.

第六段:
C. Take 30–60 Minute Recharges: Look for points in the schedule where it’s ok for me to go take a walk, grab a coffee, take a shower or exercise. Things that put me in another headspace and recharge me. Yeah so it’s not that I wasn’t interested in your panel topic, it’s that I needed some Hunter time.

第七段:
D. Pull People Aside for 1:1s: As my friend knows from an annual conference we both attend, I’m a big fan of catching up over a 1:1 walk, even offsite from the event. I find this technique especially good at evening events where instead of a loud noisy drinking circle, I’ll find someone I wanted to spend time with and we’ll find a location to just sit and chat for 20–30 minutes before releasing back into the frenzy.

第八段:
Suggestions from the Crowd:

  1. Get attendee lists in advance to identify folks you know who are attending or people with whom you have mutual friends/interests
  2. Asking people I know at the event to introduce me to people I don’t. Even if I only know one person at first, this lets me have many convos…
  3. Also use a buddy system — Bringing a guest puts me at ease and makes it easier to meet new people
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