第二步：精读重点段落

（Tips: 双击文中单词可以查释义并加入你的生词本哦）

第四段：
I was working full-time as chief finance officer for a private school and also volunteered at my kids' school and in my community. My husband was a sales rep for a construction company but I was the breadwinner and acted like I was in charge.

第六段：
The six principles of being a 'Surrendered Wife'

    Relinquishes inappropriate control of her husband
    Respects her husband's thinking
    Receives his gifts graciously and expresses gratitude for him
    Expresses what she wants without trying to control him
    Relies on him to handle household finances
    Focuses on her own self-care and fulfilment

• relinquish 放弃
• graciously 仁慈地

第九段：
So I went to counselling by myself and complained about my husband for more than a year. Spending thousands of dollars, only to find myself nearer divorce than when I started.

第十二段：
It was incredibly humbling to recognise that I had something to do with why my marriage was failing and perhaps even why my first marriage failed. But it was also empowering.

第十五段：
I'll never forget the day I first apologised to my husband for being rude for correcting him in front of the children, or the day I said "whatever you think" when I'd previously been extremely opinionated about what he should do.

• opinionated 固执己见的

（Tips: 双击文中单词可以查释义并加入你的生词本哦）

I am a 'surrendered wife’

第一段：
Californian Kathy Murray says she saved her marriage by giving up trying to control her husband. Despite considering herself a feminist, she follows - and now teaches others - the approach of a controversial book called The Surrendered Wife, which tells women to stop nagging their partners and start treating them with more respect.

• feminist 女权主义者
• controversial 有争议的
• nag 絮叨

第二段：
The first time I married I was divorced by 26. I married for the second time at 32 but soon found myself sleeping in the guest room. My husband and I fought all the time.

第三段：
Much of our fighting stemmed from the fact I thought my husband was clueless when it came to raising the children (we had four children between us aged from four to nine years old). We also quarrelled about how to manage our finances, and how often we made love.

第四段：
I was working full-time as chief finance officer for a private school and also volunteered at my kids' school and in my community. My husband was a sales rep for a construction company but I was the breadwinner and acted like I was in charge.

第五段：
I didn't tell anyone I was in constant conflict with my husband. I was embarrassed, angry and resentful.

• resentful 怨恨的

第六段：
The six principles of being a 'Surrendered Wife'

    Relinquishes inappropriate control of her husband
    Respects her husband's thinking
    Receives his gifts graciously and expresses gratitude for him
    Expresses what she wants without trying to control him
    Relies on him to handle household finances
    Focuses on her own self-care and fulfilment

Source: Laura Doyle, author of The Surrendered Wife

• relinquish 放弃
• graciously 仁慈地

第七段：
My husband often resorted to watching TV and snuggling with our pets as I'd rage at him over ignoring my needs. I mean all men want sex right? Not my husband. He wanted nothing to do with me. It was awful.

• resort to 诉诸
• snuggle 依偎
• rage at 怒斥

第八段：
The more I told my husband how he should be, the less he'd try. I couldn't figure it out so I dragged him to marriage counselling. But that only made things worse, so we sent our children to counselling since they too bore the brunt of so much of our conflict. That didn't work either.

• drag 迫使，拖，拉
• brunt 主要的压力

第九段：
So I went to counselling by myself and complained about my husband for more than a year. Spending thousands of dollars, only to find myself nearer divorce than when I started.

第十段：
I'd cry, fight, yell and pout, thinking he would eventually come around, but he didn't. I lost weight, went to the gym and started getting attention from men which was tempting to act on, but I knew I couldn't do that, so I'd play the victim card and sulk. That didn't work either.

• pout 生气，绷着脸
• sulk 愠怒

第十一段：
I was about to end my marriage when I picked up a book called The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I mean, they don't teach us how to be successful in marriage in school and the women in my life didn't share the secrets either.

第十二段：
It was incredibly humbling to recognise that I had something to do with why my marriage was failing and perhaps even why my first marriage failed. But it was also empowering.

第十三段：
I didn't know I'd been disrespectful to my husband or even that I'd been controlling and critical.

第十四段：
I thought I was being helpful and logical. I just didn't know that respect for men is like oxygen, so no wonder my husband was no longer interested in me sexually.

第十五段：
I'll never forget the day I first apologised to my husband for being rude for correcting him in front of the children, or the day I said "whatever you think" when I'd previously been extremely opinionated about what he should do.

• opinionated 固执己见的